5. Making appointments
6. How to cook their food
7. How to dance
8. Read at their grade level
9. Managing their own money
1. Rules of Etiquette
2. Cleaning up after themselves
3. Car maintenance
4. Their own laundry
Question: Who is teaching your child their social skills?
Most children go to school approximately 6 hours a day. During these 1,800 minutes each week, from whom are they acquiring their social skills? Friends? Teachers? Social Media? Strangers? Perhaps the neighborhood gang members may be influencing their impressionable minds.
You may be of the mindset that social skills should be learned in school or even church. Aptitudes such as financial literacy, basic cooking, and washing clothes are generally foundations that are laid by parents. Social skills are no different. While it is true that ‘It takes a Village’, if we want to raise socially empowered children, we simply cannot leave this responsibility to others.
Teaching social skills requires building relationships both in and outside of the family dynamic while providing a culture of learning. We cannot view this as some ‘extra’ parental burden.
Socializing with others is probably of single-most importance to our youth. They may not admit it, but our children want to learn how to deal with awkward or potentially embarrassing situations, get along with others, and feel a sense of belonging. No one wants to be ostracized by his or her peers.
Talk to your children and while taking time to demonstrate for them the social skills needed to succeed now and in the future. Perhaps you will even notice a difference in yourself!
1. A greater understanding of the consequences of our decisions.
2. The ability to recognize deceitfulness among their friends.
3. Realization of the power of words like "please," "thank you," "I'm sorry," "You're welcome," and the importance of good manners overall.
4. Why walking with your head-up and demonstrating correct posture is essential for our character.
5. Knows that smiles break down walls.
6. Having respect for ourselves and others, especially our elders builds trust.
7. They recognize that not all actions taken or decisions made by our parents should be emulated.
8. Understand that everyone has a facade (good, bad, and ugly).
9. An insight into leadership starts from within oneself.
10. Always expect to be respected by others - take nothing less.
11. Recognizing the importance of thinking before you speak.
12. Lastly and no less critical, I would sign them up for a dining etiquette seminar so they could understand what good table manners are, and why they are essential.
ELII's 2020 Seminar Schedule:
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Did you know Protocol still serve several essential functions in society today!
How to tie a necktie/bowtie?
Teaching a child to tie a necktie can often be an exercise in futility. The frustration of not ‘getting it’ can have a lasting effect on a child’s confidence. If you have come across this page because you were seeking help, you’ve probably already experienced this maddening scenario. Some children have simply not developed the underlying skills needed to convert that frustrating piece of cloth into a symbol of triumph and class. But, help is on the way!
The Etiquette and Leadership Institute of Indiana (ELII) uses the EDGE Method (Explain, Demonstrate, Guide and Enable) to help our students conquer the art of tying dress and bow ties. Below are important skills and abilities children acquire by mastering the art of tying a tie:
Eye-hand coordination Ability to follow instruction
Manual dexterity Attention to detail
Visual-motor skills Fundamental style skills
Bilateral coordination Independence
Visual perception Mental sharpness
Hand strength Motivation to dress formally
Self-esteem Just being seen as a sharp dresser
If your son seems to become upset and discouraged, or just not as coordinated as you would like, check out one of ELL's upcoming seminar; for additional information regarding our 2020 seminar schedule, email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
12 Social Skills that should be in your Child's Social Skills Toolbox?
As a parent, I sometimes wonder if I have given my daughters all the necessary social skills and knowledge they needed to survive in today's world. I am continually asking myself what can I do (or could have done) to help my daughters be successful in this ever-changing and often hostile world. From politics to sports, there is hatred, animosity, and violence at every turn. So, I sat for a bit and thought, if I could do it (that's raises my girls and fill their toolbox) over again, I would fill their toolboxes with:
9 Skills your teen should learn between ages 12 - 18:
5 Reasons why your child should learn the Rules of Etiquette: